As we approach the end of our lives, there are certain signs that indicate the transition is near. Hospice nurse Julie McFadden, who goes by the username @hospicenursejulie, has shared her insights to help ease the fear and stigma around death.

One particular sign that Julie often observes is what she calls the “death stare.” It is when someone becomes fixated on a specific part of the room and doesn’t respond to external stimuli. Despite its ominous name, Julie reminds us that there is nothing to be concerned about. In fact, she describes it as a “beautiful” process.

During this time, some patients may also start talking to someone in the room who is invisible to others. They may have a big smile on their face, indicating that they are seeing something that brings them joy. Julie shared a heartwarming story about an elderly man and his wife, who had been married for 70 years. Despite his confusion, he recognized his wife and Julie, but would often turn his head and be fixated on something unseen.

His wife eventually discovered that he was looking at something he found comfort in, saying “He said ‘Jesus’.” This highlights that what patients see during these moments may vary depending on their religious beliefs. The important thing is that the patient finds happiness and comfort in whatever they see.

It is crucial to remember that these signs usually appear a few weeks to a month before someone passes away. Recognizing and understanding these signs can help loved ones prepare for what lies ahead.

If you have experienced a bereavement and would like to speak with someone in confidence, you can reach out to Cruse Bereavement Care via their national helpline on 0808 808 1677.