It was supposed to be a joyous Thanksgiving gathering, but little did I know that my boyfriend’s mom had some pent-up resentment towards me. See, my boyfriend had broken up with his high school sweetheart just before we got together, but his family was still grappling with the end of that relationship.

For a whole year, my boyfriend’s mom continuously referred to me by his ex’s name, even when he asked her to stop. It seemed like a habit she just couldn’t break. And even when she finally stopped calling me by the ex’s name, she still couldn’t get mine right. It was frustrating, but I decided to let it slide because correcting her only seemed to give her pleasure.

But things came to a boiling point on Thanksgiving. A few weeks prior, we had a barbecue at my boyfriend’s sister’s place. While in the kitchen with his mom and sisters, his sister mentioned how he raved about my cooking skills to her husband. Sarcastically, my boyfriend’s mom suggested that I should cook the turkey for Thanksgiving, only she called me by the wrong name again. This time, I decided to make a statement.

When Thanksgiving arrived, we brought the usual wine and dessert, but I intentionally didn’t bring the turkey. I thought my boyfriend’s mom would have made the connection and realized her mistake since she had mentioned the other woman’s name when discussing the plans. Little did I know, chaos ensued.

There was yelling, there was crying, and before we knew it, we were kicked out. Since then, my boyfriend hasn’t spoken to me, and I’ve been questioning whether my actions were justified.

When I turned to Reddit for advice, I expected people to chastise me for my behavior. But to my surprise, the majority of comments were supportive. Many saw my drastic action as a necessary measure to make my boyfriend’s mom acknowledge her hurtful behavior. They understood that I had tried to confront her before, but she simply ignored my pleas.

Some suggested that I should have confronted her directly, while others believed that my turkey stunt was the perfect way to expose her wrongdoing. Either way, one thing was clear – I wasn’t alone in feeling frustrated and disrespected.

Despite the fallout with my boyfriend, I found solace in knowing that others empathized with my predicament. The Thanksgiving showdown may have ended our relationship, but it also shed light on the deep-rooted issues that needed to be addressed within his family.

So, as I move forward, I’m grateful for the support I received from the Reddit community. And regardless of what happens next, I know that standing up for myself was the right thing to do. After all, nobody deserves to be constantly called by the wrong name and dismissed by their partner’s family.