As we approach the end of our lives, there are certain experiences that commonly occur. Julie McFadden, a compassionate hospice nurse, has shared her observations about the final days, hours, and minutes of life. Her insights help us understand these experiences and provide comfort to both the dying person and their loved ones.
Calming Loved Ones’ Concerns
While the person who is dying may be as comfortable as possible, it can be unsettling or distressing for their loved ones who are unsure of what to expect. Julie uses her platform on TikTok to educate her followers about the common occurrences as we near the end of life. Her knowledge and guidance bring solace to those going through this difficult time.
The Death Rattle: Understanding its Significance
One of the experiences that can be distressing for loved ones is the “death rattle.” This occurs when breathing becomes louder and more pronounced due to the buildup of fluids in the lungs. It is a natural sign that someone is nearing death.
Although it may sound alarming, this process does not cause any discomfort to the person who is dying. Julie explains on her YouTube channel, “The death rattle is the most normal thing and to be expected at the end of life. However, if you’re not used to hearing it, it feels like the scariest thing you’ve ever heard.”
Preparing for the Transition: Cold Extremities
As the body prepares for death, there are noticeable changes that occur. For instance, a dying person’s extremities—such as their feet, legs, and hands—can become cold as the body conserves blood around the vital organs. While this change may be concerning, it is a natural part of the body’s transition.
Encounters with the Departed: Finding Comfort in Connections
Many people near the end of life report seeing deceased loved ones in the room with them. Julie acknowledges these experiences, stating, “They will sometimes have conversations right in front of us with these people that we don’t see.” Whether these encounters are spiritual or a result of our brain comforting us during the dying process, they provide a sense of comfort and peace. Each person’s interpretation is unique and personal.
Through her work, Julie has gained invaluable insights. She shares, “What I’ve learned in hospice nursing and in ICU nursing is that death is not the worst possible thing. It has changed my life, witnessing the immense amount of love I see while my patients are on hospice.”
Let us find solace in understanding the common experiences that occur as we near the end of our lives. It is through knowledge and compassion that we can support our loved ones during this transitional phase.
